So, you have a bad singer who wants to join the band?
We all have had people join the band that aren’t really ‘qualified’ to; if you haven’t, you will. It can be a real pain in the butt to allow an untalented person on stage. My boyfriend and I have had our fair share of not so pleasant singers that felt like God has called them to worship. You’re a worship leader and you want to be nice but some people are just… bad.
Things you should not tell this person:
- “Honey, I don’t know who told you that you were a good singer, but they were really good at lying.”
- “You are not needed here.”
- “Do you even go here?”
- “You’re not good enough to be on stage.”
- “Sure I guess you can join. But don’t expect to get any solos.”
- “You should stick to soccer.”
- “Worship is definitly not your calling.”
- “How about you play the triangle instead.”
- “I think they could put your talents to use more if you volunteered to be the church janitor.”
Maybe you just have to fish the talent out of the place it’s hiding
If they say, “God has called me to worship,” believe them. You have no idea what God’s plans are. You may not be able to see the big picture that God is painting for that person. My pastor said once, “God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called.” And that couldn’t be more true. God will give them the things necessary to pursue that. I was called into worship playing piano. I barely knew what a piano was, let alone chords, structure, keys, and measures. Someone gave me the chance to allow God to use me, even though I was horrible. I learned how to play really well because all I did was practice.
Eventually, I started singing even though I didn’t think I was good enough. My worship leader was constantly encouraging me through it. I sang so much at home that I trained my voice to sound a lot better and I learned how to use it. Now I’m a worship leader along side my bestfriend. You don’t know what talents are hiding inside someone, a lot of times they don’t even know it, so you have to help them find it.
Pray for them
You don’t want to get comfortable with talking about untalented people after they leave practice. Reasons for that should be pretty obvious. Instead of talking about them to your friends or other band memebers- talk about them to God. Pray. Pray for them- for their music skills to increase, and you can even pray with them.
- Have auditions. Make a list of certain requirments the singer must have in order to join. (Be able to stay in key, be able to sing harmony, etc.)
- Tell them their voice is not strong enough (or controlled enough) to lead AND then help them get to the place where they can.
- Record them singing a solo on stage at practice and have them listen to it after. A lot of people don’t realize they can’t sing until they hear a recording of it because our voices sound different to us. Give them some constructive critisism and advice on how to fix certain things you notice.
- Just turn down their microphone in the sound system (but then you have to figure out an answer to ‘Why can’t I hear myself’ or ‘why is my microphone so quiet’
- Sometimes, if a person is not a good singer or sings out of key, it can be hard for the congregation to worship. Being in key is really important. It can get everybody off, including other singers. What I would do at that point is take all the singers around the piano and hit a note and let them copy the note (keep hitting different keys until they get the hang of it). And if they are still off, just simply say “Something sounds off, lets try again.” Then get alone with them after a practice and tell them to practice doing that at home with a piano or a piano app. Keep on working with them. Remember, they can’t get any worse, they can only get better.
- Sometimes beating around the bush hurts in the end. You may just want to tell them what you think about their voice. If you do this, you should really offer to help them… rather than just saying, “You suck, now get out of my office.” You know?
I really hope this helped. When you find yourself stuck in this kind of rut, there are many things you can do. This is only a few. Pray about it and maybe God will reveal an answer that better fits your situation!
If you need any help or advice on your particular situation, feel free to shoot me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Can’t wait to hear from you!