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When sharing your heart with your youth band backfires and how to prevent it. 

By September 1, 2017 Youth Worship
When sharing your heart with your youth band backfires and how to prevent it. 

When sharing your heart with your youth band backfires and how to prevent it.

On at least one occasion, that I can remember, Zack and I had a run in with an unhappy youth parent because of word twisting. It is very easy for something like that to occur in a youth band because you are leading a group of students and you have to take charge sometimes. Which can sometimes lead to angering a youth. It doesn’t matter what the talk is about, if it is serious, most likely, words will get twisted.

Sometimes youth can feel like they are getting in trouble and take it the wrong way, even when your heart meant for constructive criticism or simply telling them something with only love in your voice. Words can get taken the wrong way, especially if someone is frustrated with you. If you are going to have a serious conversation with them, there are a few things you need to do in order for it to not backfire and explode in your face.

1. Do not do it over text

I know. In this day and age, everything is easier to do through text. Do not do this. Through text, they cannot hear your tone of voice and it is likely that it will get read wrong. I urge you not to have a serious conversation over text, really, with anyone. This is actually beneficial for friendships and relationships as well. Just say you’re welcome.

2. Have a sit down

This one sort of goes with the first point. There are two ways to go about this. Get the whole band together and share your heart as a whole, not pointing anyone out. This will allow the issue to not specify anyone out so no one feels attacked. Or you could go to someone in private if it’s more of a one on one issue with a specific youth. Make sure that you use your words wisely if you do the one on one talk.

If you think the student may find a way to twist the words or take something the wrong way, I’d even think about recording it just to be able to show someone if a problem were to occur. But most of the time it doesn’t get to this point. Just giving suggestions here. If you have a sit down with the youth, I’d see if another adult could be present or maybe even the youth pastor. You can never be too safe. Usually, youth don’t go crazy when you have a serious conversation. Like I said, I can only think of one time where that has happened to me but now I know how to prevent it.

3. Have scripture to back it if possible

If the issue is them being lazy about learning songs, there are scriptures about being lazy or not using your whole heart when doing things. If you are addressing some arguing that goes on between a couple of the musicians, there are bible verses about that. Use scripture, if possible, but make sure to use it in the correct context. Now if you are addressing something like “Don’t go to the bathroom during practice if possible,” then you probably don’t need to spend 4 hours looking for a proper scripture for that exact situation but if you want to, hey, scripture is awesome!

4. Ask them

I wouldn’t want any youth to think they can’t talk to me about something. At the end of the discussion, I’d take a few minutes just to ask them if they have any thoughts on the issue or anything to say, just so they don’t feel like you completely attacked them.

Those are a few things that you can do when sharing your heart with youth to make sure it doesn’t backfire on you. I wish you luck in all of your serious conversations to come! I pray you handle the situations with kindness and calmness, with little frustration. It’s easy to get frustrated, especially if you don’t address the problem, because then they don’t know they are doing something wrong so they keep doing it and it annoys you a little more every time they do it. They may not know they are doing it. Just let them know. Address it wisely and prayerfully.

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The ‘Like Jesus’ challenge: Week 3 (Memorizing Scripture)

By August 21, 2017 Like Jesus Challenge
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Hey there again!

Glad to see you reading this for week 3 of the like Jesus challenge. How did last week go for you, smiling at everyone? I hope it went very well. I’d love to hear about it! Today, I will be sharing with you what you will be doing all of this week (week 3). Are you ready?

Week 3: Memorize one bible verse and find a way to use and apply it each day this week.

It’s one thing to know the scripture but it’s a game changer when you are acting them out and actually doing what they say. Take some time today to find what scripture you want to learn this week and start memorizing. Learn it so well that when you hear the reference, you can quote it without any hesitation. If you have never learned scripture before or aren’t really sure how to, click here to read my post about memorizing scripture.

It is important for us to be learning scripture as Christians. We don’t always have a bible with us. It can be very beneficial to have some key verses in your mind and heart. Go back to the bible verse you choose as often as you can this week. Look at it or say it multiple times a day. Say it to a close friend; say it in a prayer.

Why?

Learning scripture can be super encouraging for you and others around you. If you are trying to take action in the Bible verses rather than just reading or memorizing them, you are going to make a huge impact in your life and in many others around you.

If you want to follow Christ and be (humble, kind, forgiving, etc) like Him, then memorize scripture. I promise, if you do rather than just read it and forget about it, your heart will begin to change. Your attitude will move out of the way to make even more room for God in your life. But if the extent of this is just memorizing or reading a scripture, you are not going to get what you are wanting out of this challenge.

Apply it.

Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.” If you were to memorize this verse, it does you no good unless you apply it to your life. You shouldn’t be memorizing this bible verse but holding a grudge on Susan from a year ago when she stole your $1.50 that you were going to buy a Spongebob ice cream with.

I know when your brothers and sisters sin against you, it may be a bit worse than stealing $1.50 from you but regardless of the situation, the Bible says it plain as day. Forgive. Even when you don’t want to. Even when you’ve given them more chances than you think appropriate.

The point of me saying all of this is, don’t learn the scripture and then not apply it to your life. Learn it and then let it change you because it will, if you let it. So for this whole week, take out some time to learn one or two scriptures really well and try your hardest to apply it to your life each day this week. It may be hard at first but I promise, you will get the hang of it!

Don’t forget!

Do the other weeks challenges as well. Continue praying for others. Continue smiling at people. Use these challenges to form healthy habits that will brighten your day and your walk with God. Let these challenges allow God to change your heart and attitude. Make sure you read your bible every day this week as well! You have to be in the word if you want an attitude adjusment. Good luck this week!

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4 lies I believed as a new Christian

By March 3, 2017 General
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4 lies I believed as a new Christian

Being a new Christian can be overwhelming. You get to watch your entire life do a 180. Sometimes it can be scary because it’s something you’ve never done before.More often times than not, a new believer can get caught up in the wrong mindset. Maybe we think these things because of watching other ‘christians’ or maybe it’s just something we think. Let me tell you a few things that I believed as a new Christian just in case you are in the same boat as I was.
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