Welcome to Week 4: Self-Confidence!
The challenge I am about to ask you to do this week might be especially hard for some people. I know I struggled with this for a long time and still do on occasion. This whole week, you need to do this one simple task to help with your self-confidence. It won’t take any longer than a couple minutes of your day.
All of week 4, I want you to look in the mirror at some point through out the day and tell yourself 5 things that you like about yourself. You can say it in your head or even out loud but if you’re in public, some people may think you’re crazy. Hey, who cares! As Christians, we are supposed to stand out. So if you want to talk about all the things you like about yourself out loud, DO IT.
You are beautiful.
Personally, if someone told me to do this every day for a week about a year ago, I can positively tell you, I wouldn’t be able to find one feature that I liked about myself. This is something I really struggled with. Every girl that would cross my path, I would instantly point out to myself how pretty they were and it would make me compare myself to them. I’m so glad that God worked on that with me because I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have the self confidence that I have now while I’m going through what I’m going through.
If I’m being honest with you all, I have been going through a pretty rough breakup. I’ve had to watch him bring girls to church and watch him flirting with them and laughing with them. God has been working in me so I don’t get jealous but it takes me quite a bit of self confidence to not start looking at all my flaws when he’s bringing all these beautiful women to the church. I still find myself comparing myself to them sometimes but I am going to continue working on it. You should too!
You are so beautiful in the eyes of God. He made you look just the way He wanted you to look. He looks at you and sees no faults. God doesn’t look at all your flaws; He looks at all the beautiful. You look exactly how God wants you to look.
So everyday, look in the mirror. Tell yourself you like your hair. Say that you love the clothes you wear. Share about how beautiful the color of your eyes are! There are so many things that you could say each day. God did not make junk when He made you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14). You’re shaped the way you are for a reason. You have the voice you have for a reason. The facial features you have, God designed perfectly the way he wanted. Quit looking in the mirror and thinking bad things about yourself. Ultimately, what you are saying is, “God, I know you made me the way you wanted but I don’t think you did good enough.”
Don’t let the world define beauty
Stop letting the world decide wether you are beautiful or not! The world does not know the true definition of beauty, they have a twisted, unrealistic version of beauty. So if you are a Christian, go to Gods word. See what He has to say about how beautiful. I promise, you will not be disappointed. God thinks highly of you; He doesn’t want you looking in a mirror bashing yourself or comparing yourself to other people. There is only one blueprint for you, as my pastor would say. You are one of a kind. You’re a snowflake.
You can’t change who you really are; you can’t change the way you look. So stop trying to fit in when you were made to stand out. If you can’t change how you look, why get upset about it, you have to deal with it anyways.
I wish I could change my voice
This is something I used to wish every day. Then I realized that I was telling God He didn’t do a good enough job. If God called me to lead worship, then why don’t I have a voice like Lauren Diagle or Steffany Gretzinger? God spoke to me and removed these thoughts from my head. An old pastor of mine once said, “God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.” I could compare my voice to other singers and say how much better they are then me, but where does that get me? No where. Because in the end, my voice is still the same, but now I am just thinking my voice isn’t very good.
I’d much rather remember that God has placed a calling on my life to lead worship for a reason. What if me having a better voice would have made me get big headed and proud? What if that made me prideful? There is a reason for everything. God hears my voice. He hears me singing to Him, whether I am singing like Kari Jobe or like someone who can’t even stay in key. I have learned to love the voice God has given me and that has allowed me to go way further than I ever thought I could.
Never in my life would I have thought I would go from turning my piano all the way down so no one could hear me in a worship band, to being a worship leader, playing guitar (an instrument that isn’t even my main instrument) and singing. God can take, even the things you think aren’t good enough, and use them in a huge way. So as you go through week 4, try your hardest to boost your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is attractive
I don’t know if you know this or not, ladies, self-confidence is so attractive. Now hear me out, don’t go all crazy boasting about how beautiful and awesome you are. Don’t be prideful about it. Just being able to take compliments and walk confidentially makes you a thousand times more beautiful. You don’t need to go fishing for compliments when the Bible has plenty of those for you from someone far greater than anyone walking this earth. Know what God says about the way you look. Don’t look in the mirror and bash a beautiful thing God has made.
So, for all of week 4, say 5 things about yourself that you like. Don’t do this half-heartedly. Seriously try to be more confident in who you are, you aren’t changing that. So accept it and realize how beautiful you are! Self-confidence is waiting… your move.
Just like I say at the end of most of these challenges, make sure you continue doing the past weeks. Keep smiling and remembering bible verses. You want to continue doing these things as much as you can until it becomes more natural to do them. Your heart and attitude will change. But only if you are in the word of God daily and spending one on one time with Him because ultimitely, we need to be growing deeper and deeper into our relationship with Jesus. Good Luck!