WHAT TO PUT INSIDE ‘OPEN WHEN’ LETTERS: Part 7
All couples fight. It’s just something that happens. No matter how much you avoid it at the beginning, a fight will eventually make its way to the surface, whether it be something stupid or something serious. So make an open when letter about when we are in a fight. To be honest, I close myself off because of walls I’ve built. Rather than screaming or arguing, I tend to say nothing at all. Reason being, I will say stupid things I don’t mean. I’d rather say nothing and talk when I’m ready than to say things I don’t mean. Even though he will forgive me right away, I would feel so bad about it.
The Letter:
Hey hun,
If we are in a really bad fight and I have said something stupid, I’m really sorry. Or maybe we are just not seeing eye to eye. I tend to do that a lot but just know how sorry I am, even if I won’t say it. Whatever I said, I didn’t mean it; I was just mad. Maybe I’m still mad. Maybe you’re still mad. Just give us a little time to think things over. If you’re really mad at me, please forgive me. Regardless of who is wrong or right, just tell me you love me, that you’re sorry, and that you just want to stop fighting already; then kiss me. And keep kissing me. I love you more than you could ever imagine. Sometimes I get mad when I need not be mad.
I’m not perfect; I say stupid things. I do stupid things. I get mad over nothing. I can be impatient. I can make bad decisions. I can be forgetful. I can have a temper. But ultimately, I am human. No matter how much I want to be perfect for you, I will often fall short. I’m sorry. And even if I’m not saying it, I should be.
Feel free to switch things up or add to that. The biggest things here is to not put a “you should fix this” mentality over the letter. When your person opens this letter, odds are- they might be fairly mad. So don’t make it worse. Be careful with what you write.
What else to put in there
- Fishing hooks, if they like fishing- with a note that , “Out of all the fish in the sea, you’re the only one for me. Even when we fight….” It’s lame… I know.
- Sour patch kids with a note that says, “Even though we are going through a Sour Patch, I still love you more than you know.”
- Write down a list of ways that work for you that stop the fighting
Thank you so much for reading! I hope these are helping you with these letters because I’ve always seen what open letters are, but no one talks about what’s inside them.
-Chrissy
Hi Chrissy!
I particularly can relate to closing off when angry or in a fight. I do that too and my boyfriend keeps telling me to not stay silent and say whatever I have in my mind at that time, but I know that I might say some really stupid things and then will go on a massive self guilt trip after I’ve cooled down.
That said, all of these letters are so beautiful! I was looking for birthday ideas for him and this the most perfect thing ever! I can’t thank you enough for posting this idea on your blog. Keep giving us other awesome ideas too 😀
I think a lot of women struggle with the closing off when angry. But being a Christian and reading my bible, I handle situations a lot better. I’ve started talking about what’s on my mind more but not in a ‘we need to fight about this’ kind of way. Then, we get to sit down and talk about it and get it off our chest, rather than bottling it up until we go off! Be open with you boyfriend and treat him well 🙂 And thank you so much for these encouraging words. I couldn’t thank you enough! I will continue posting!